Miss R: Squashing the nerves

Boudoir sessions are nerve-wracking. There’s no either way to fluffy it up. You wear little to no clothing in front of another person and you give them complete trust to make you look beautiful of the camera. You give this person the trust they will make you feel safe and comfortable.

I get it. When I first had a boudoir session, I felt so out of place. I was totally in my head. I was hyperfocusing of the things I was self-conscious about. I was also super nervous so I knew and understood Miss R’s nerves. I understood what she felt so I made it my job to make sure she felt comfortable around me and knew that I’m not only her photographer but her friend.

I complimented Miss R at every chance I could. I hyped her up because she deserves it. She did so well during her session and slowly she was gaining confidence, losing the nerves she had at the start of the session.

Boudoir sessions may scare most and that’s understandable because of how society has made us all think that we can appreciate our bodies. Society has made us think that self-deprecating humor is a personality trait we all should have. But why? Why can’t we sing praises and enjoy our body?

Why shame others for loving themselves? Why do we have to humble or be shy about our bodies?

When Miss R came for her reveal, I couldn’t help tear up when she kept smiling as she scrolled through her gallery and asking “is that me?” Because yes… It’s you. That beautiful, badass and absolute babe is you and she enjoyed every moment we spent in the studio.